How to Find the Perfect Mate
March 27, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
You have to know what you want and what you need from your relationship. Then you can decide what defines the word perfect for your. For instance my definition always includes the words: smart, funny, adventurous and kind. You might notice that my perfect mate is not defined in physical terms. My tastes in that have changed over the years, but the really important qualities have never wavered at all. Call me crazy, but I will take a smart and funny insurance agent over a handsome, vapid barely employed actor any day of the week. My definition of perfect does not work for my best friend, nor does hers work for me.
One of the easiest ways to know if someone is your perfect mate is to actually spend time with them. Go on a cruise and see how well you relate to each other when you are stuck at sea without a chance of escape. Make sure that you have interests both mutual and individual. You do not want to wake up one morning and find that you have absolutely nothing in common with the person that you declared was your perfect mate. On the other hand, you will want to have interests outside the relationship as well. No one is so perfect that you want to spend every single moment with them after all. Give yourself a chance to miss that person every now and then to keep things fresh between you.
Most importantly: do not pretend to be someone that you are not to “get” this perfect mate. They deserve their perfect mate as well, and if you are pretending to be someone other than who you are, how will they know if you perfect or not? Don’t pretend to be a sports fan to snare that athlete that you have had your eye on and expect to make a lasting relationship with him. For one thing, if you are really not into sports, you have just kicked things off with a big lie. Not only will that make him question everything else about the relationship, it will make him rethink his own priorities. Do you really envision a life of faking enthusiasm when sports does nothing more than bore and bewilder you? Or are you planning on sitting sporting events for the rest of your lives together, content to go out and do your own thing? That might be an awful lot of time spent apart, is that really what you want for the rest of your life?
Your perfect mate can be the last person on earth you would have dreamed of. It could be the living version of your fantasy. Either way, it has to be the person that is perfect for you and you alone. Make sure that it is the perfect mate for the real you, and not someone who is attracted by a manufactured image that you cannot maintain for a lifetime.
Senior Christian Dating Expanding The Pool Of Eligible Christian Singles By Going Online
January 27, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
If you are a senior, Christian dating opportunities may seem limited. But don’t despair. Besides the traditional venues to meet religious members of the opposite sex (like Church), the internet has opened up many new doors. Now you can go online to find a partner who shares your values. This article will look at how to choose and use a senior Christian dating site.
There are several different approaches you can follow when selecting a senior Christian dating site. First, you can go to a general site such as EHarmony or Match dot com and select for the age group you are in and the Christian religion. Or, you can go to a Christian only dating site and select the age group you are in. On the flip side, you can go to a senior’s dating site and select for the Christian religion. Finally, you can get very specific and go to a site that is set up specifically for Christian Seniors.
You will be able to try out a senior Christian dating site, but in order to use the full range of services, you will need to join. The fee can range from a few dollars a month to hundreds of dollars a year.
One of the first things you will do is create a personal profile. Some sites have drop down menus and check boxes which make everyone look pretty generic but makes searching for people with similar interests easier. Others allow you to post a long essay about yourself that gives potential dates great insight into you.
You will also be able to upload a photo of yourself. I recommend that you do upload the photo because people with photos receive twenty times more messages than people without them. Some senior Christian dating sites also allow you to upload video. If you have this option, it is advisable to do so.
Your profile, photos, and videos allow people to be drawn to you. But, it also allows people to weed you out. This is actually a good thing. Some of these sites have more than 100,000 members. Remember, you are not looking for many loves, you are looking for one. So, finding someone who you are attracted to and who is attracted to you is paramount.
Many people join single Christian dating sites because they take their faith seriously and want to meet someone who cares about Jesus as much as they do. But be aware that the level of commitment to the church varies among members. So, if your purpose in joining a Christian site is to find someone with the same level of religiousness as you have, you still must do your screening for this.
One of the advantages of a senior Christian dating site over the more general dating pool is that you know in advance that you have something in common. People wouldn’t join such a site specifically if they weren’t looking for a fellow Christian.
If you want to meet other Christians and you are over age 50, join a senior Christian dating site today.