Dating a Younger Woman
February 19, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
Lucky stud! You are dating a younger woman! Your family probably wants to have you committed and your friends want to do you bodily harm. You are the envy of everyone around you and there are times when you catch our reflection in the mirror and cannot believe that great big old smile is actually on your face. Dating a younger woman can be a very rewarding thing, if you know a few things upfront.
If you are an open minded kind of guy, dating a younger woman can show you a whole new world. Let her show you the music that makes her happy, you might actually like it. Check out the pop culture icons of her generation. Do not be too upset if she says that she has not heard of any of yours. Hopefully she will be as open minded and allow you to show her a taste of your world too.
You must also keep in mind that the bigger the age gap, the bigger the gap in life experiences. If it is only a few years we are talking about, then it might only be a few minor things, but the more years that separate you, the more gaps there will be. Trying to relate to someone the same age as your children without treating them like a child themselves is a dance done on a very fine line.
Younger women for the most part are very health conscious and will more than likely want to try to change your eating and exercise habits. If you met your younger lover at the gym, do not expect her to be happy sitting on the couch night after night eating chips and drinking soda. Her youth is important to her, and she will try to stretch it out for as many years as possible. If she truly does like you, she will more than likely decide that she wants to keep you around for a long time as well. That means new diet and exercise routines for you; you owe it to yourself to at least give her advice a try. If you want to keep up with your young lover, you have to start taking better care of yourself, right?
While it is true that the age difference will mean that there are a lot of things that you do not have in common, you might be surprised at the things you do have. For instance, since women mature faster than men do, the younger woman might have reached an age where she is ready to settle down, where her peers are not. As an older man, you have probably done your own wild oat sowing and are ready as well. Of course, if you are an older man just out of a long term relationship, you might not be looking to start anything serious just now. Make sure that you keep the line of communication open on this so that there are no hurt feelings.
Finally, remember this: age is simply a number. If you do not like vapid women the same age as you, you certainly will not like vapid women twenty years younger, no matter how perky her bum. If you look, feel and act fifty years old, you are not going to be happy with a woman that is the epitome of twenty. Chemistry does not take numbers into account, so look for a connection before checking for age.
How to Communicate with your Eyes
February 16, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
Your eyes are the windows to your soul. They give you away when you are happy and when you are sad. They tell on you when you are thinking naughty thoughts. They twinkle like stars, and snap like fireworks. Your lover gets drawn into them every time you kiss. Your eyes can say more than your actual words at times. You communicate more than you will ever know with your eyes.
Look across the table and make eye contact. Let your lover see the twinkles that dance in your eyes whenever you look at him,. Raise one eyebrow suggestively. Maybe even give him a slow, smoldering wink that will guarantee he will wolf that meal down!
Are you upset with him but don’t really want to get drawn into an acrimonious argument? Let him see the pain in your eyes. He will see how dull the color is, the shimmer of threatened tears and it will kill him. No man likes to see the woman that he loves in pain, and he will do whatever it takes to bring the fire back to your eyes.
If you feel guilty about something, you probably will not be making as much eye contact. Ironically, studies show that men who are guilty of infidelity will make more eye contact than considered normal in an attempt to convince others of his innocence..
Your eyes can reveal more than you would really like them to at times. You are pretending to be perfectly happy, and that is what you keep saying to everybody, but your downcast, red rimmed eyes tell a whole different story. You are not happy and we can all tell. Conversely, you are trying to play it cool with a new man, but your eyes snap and sparkle like perfectly cut diamonds. You shake your head and say that he is “okay” when your friends ask, but they can see the light in your eyes whenever you talk about him. Your eyes have just ratted you out!
We wink and bat our eyes to flirt. We roll our eyes to express disgust, annoyance or boredom. We clamp our eyes shut when we are afraid, and open them wide when we are surprised. Our eyes appear partially closed to signal our sexual arousal. Our eyes allow us to pass messages to people when words are not going to get it done. Every single emotion we feel as humans shows in our eyes.
We look for messages in our lover’s eyes and hope that we are not misreading cues. We mourn when we look into lifeless eyes and realize there is no feeling there to be expressed any longer. And we smile, when we look across the table and get a slow, smoldering wink and a single eyebrow raised message.
Signs She Likes Me – What to Look for
February 1, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
- She knows a lot about you. She even asks around whether you are single, not-so-single or just unavailable. Sometimes it is an outright question from her or at time you find this out when you try talking with her. You can ask some friends to help you out to verify your suspicion that there is some information about you that she is aware of.
- She likes hanging out with your friends. For some reason, she seems to want to befriend common people that you interested in as well. You tend to notice that she wants to associate with people within your circle. She seems to be in places you regularly frequent. She puts your photos or things associated with you in the midst of all the other things she has. And here is the icing on the cake – she likes to be seen by her friends with you.
- Look out for any of these things which she may affectionately do for you. She cooks for you or occasionally brings food items for you. She gives your opportunities for you to call her. She visits you unexpectedly. She makes you feel that she is happy when she is with you. She can also play mind games with you so you better play your cards right. The bolder ones even ask why you didn’t kiss her when you had a chance.
- She pays particular attention when you speak. Try asking her about something. Observe her body language. If she pays very special attention or of she seems to be fidgety and drops things around you. That may imply you have her attention. Another bonus sign for you is when she tosses her hair backwards around you or when you are looking.
- She tends to look or even stare at you when you are not looking. If you look at her, sometimes you would catch her looking away, avoiding getting caught. On the other hand, if she smiles back, that is an affirmation as well.
Use this list as a guideline, not as a rulebook. Women can be and are actually very complicated. They like to be pursued and cared for. Let her know that you are interested and she will let you know in more ways than one, whether she feels the same way.
Dating After a Separation
January 29, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
There is nothing harder than the end of a relationship. Nothing that is except resuming the dating life after a separation. Your friends will try to get you out on that first date too soon, and unless your family truly hated your spouse, will try to make you wait far too long. That first date is a killer, I know, but it must be done. There are just a few things to keep in mind before heading back out in the dating world.
First, make sure that you are moving at your own pace. No one expects you to walk out of a long term relationship without some emotional scars. Dating after a separation has to be about healing and that takes time. Let yourself mope and cry if that is what you need to do. Only you can decide when you are ready to move on.
Now, here is a tip that might make you think I have lost my mind, but bear with me, I do have a point. Do not turn down dates when you finally do get back out in the world. No, I do not advocate dinner and movies with any Joe Schmo that asks you to go, but going out to coffee is good practice. Yes, practice. Get out there and learn what you like and do not like, personality wise. Once you figure out what items are on the positive check list, you can go out and start looking for them!
Don’t try to find a replacement for your ex. That relationship failed for a reason, you know. Going on a lot of dates will also open your eyes to the veritable buffet of available singles out there, and the more dates that you do go on, the more likely you will see that you do not have to settle for less than the very best. Maybe you thought that you preferred athletes until you dated that football player with the odor issue. Lesson learned, right?
The more dates that you go on, especially after separation, the more confidence you will gain. That in turn will make you a happier, more well adjusted person. Once you are happy with you, the chances increase that you will finally meet Mr. Right. Until that day, it’s Mr. Right Now or home alone every Saturday night, it’s your choice. But think about this: do you really want to sit there eating cheese doodles and watching Lifetime movies every weekend while your ex is out partying and living the high life? Do you really want to pick up the Sunday paper and see his face smiling back at you from his engagement announcement photo? Really? Of course you don’t!
The timetable is different for everybody; some people’s hearts heal faster than others. One thing is true for everybody though; dating after a separation is hard. There will be bad dates where you come home and fling yourself on your bed and sob, thinking that you will never love again. Then there will be the good dates where you come home, your lips still quivering from that perfect good night kiss and sigh, thinking that maybe, just maybe there are some good guys out there after all.
How To Find Love With Online Dating
April 5, 2009 by admin · 1 Comment
If you have discovered the world of online dating you may be wondering if love could be a possibility.
Love can definitely be a possibility for those who are willing to venture into online dating and if you take the time you can find the person of your dreams.
When you sign up for an online dating site you will want to make sure that it is geared towards long term relationships.
There are some online dating sites out there that are designed for “hook ups” or other short term relationships. This is not the site for you if you are looking for a life long relationship; you want to find like minded people that are ready for commitment.
You also should look at a potential mates profile thoroughly to ensure that you both want the same thing before you pursue anyone. This is a good way to start the relationship off right with a person that has the same goals as you.
You can also sign up for more than one online dating site.
You are not limited or restricted to one online dating site and you can find a wider array of people on different sites. You may also want to explore a singles online community to keep in touch with others.
You are not obligated to date one person and many of the people on online dating sites are seeing more than one person.
You are leaving your options open if you date a variety of people. That is a good thing. When you do find love and settle down, you will have had the experience of dating other people as well and you will know without a doubt you want to be with that one person. Now, did you even think that online dating could actually open that door for you?