Tips For Maintaining a Meaningful Relationship
January 27, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
What makes a relationship meaningful? It is one that makes you want to become a better person and it is one that drives you to be the best you can be to complement and make the relationship even better. It can begin on a very romantic level but it does not guarantee that it will stay there. In the more committed levels such as marriages and nuclear families it becomes more inherent, but if the tender shoots of being related to each other are not nurtured, that too can fall apart. In very close friendships, it is even much easier to miss out on.
I remember reading somewhere that “marriages are made in heaven but the maintenance but must be done on earth”. I can’t help but agree to whoever said that. I would even toss another log into the fire and say that in all types of relationships, most especially the more meaningful ones, maintenance has to be done. Or just like a new machine that is never oiled or cleaned, it can get very rusty and before we know it, may soon break. Maintenance is indeed necessary especially for relationships.
Here are some tips for maintaining a meaningful relationship.
1. Get to know them more and more. Relationships take time to grow. Engage yourself to get to know him/her/them more and more. Get to know both the major and even trivial things that make them tick? How do they like their coffee or beverages? Do they prefer their eggs sunny side up or scrambled with salt and pepper? What do they most enjoy? What are they most passionate about? What offends them? What brings them to tears? It may take years for you to actually learn about them, but it will be worth the journey!
2. Spend valuable and quality time with each other. Are your best hours spent on your job or hobby such that you are actually too tired to even be polite to him/her/them? Be extra sensitive on what you exert your best efforts on. Save your best energies to engage in your most meaningful relationships.
3. Solicit suggestions and criticisms. Be sincere in wanting to know, in what areas you can be improved as a person. Be prepared because you may not want to know what you will hear. You want to be the best version of yourself.
4. Be quick to apologize. Remind yourself again that you are human and have your own faults. Say sorry out loud and be sincere about it. Apologizing or admitting you have erred never diminishes your value as a person.
5. Love them unconditionally. Do not expect he/she/them to return any favors that you are doing for them. That is not the reason you love them. You just do. Forgive them of their faults. Remind yourself again that he/she/they are human too and have their own faults as well. Be quick to forgive whether they apologize or not.
6. Verbalize your affection regularly. When was the last time you actually said, “I love you”? Say it frequently and mean it.
Online Dating – 7 Reasons Why Many Have Tried It and Are Persistently On It
January 24, 2011 by admin · Leave a Comment
“Oh, I wouldn’t try online dating! It simply isn’t for me!…”
I am quite sure you have heard that line before. Perhaps it may be too familiar because the idea has crossed your mind several times, but you just kept shoving it off.
Well, there are countless testimonials out there providing both the positive and the negative feedback about their experiences. In this article however, let us look at seven reasons why many do try it and why they are
still into the online dating scene.
1. They are simply too busy to meet other people with their current work schedules. They wake up, go to work, then go back home. Especially when they are in high responsibility positions, they turn in more work hours, rendering them too tired to even engage in a social life. There are also those professions that require grave yard shifts such as those in the medical field, overseas call center operations and the like.
2. They have tried the old routine but it simply did not work for them. They have tried to frequent the social scenery, but have met no one they would truly be interested in. One knows you would have to spend considerably on yourself and in outfits when you do so, but for those who consider that an investment, they have yet to see the results come in.
3. They like the option of being able to select potential dates but not necessarily meet them when they are still uncomfortable. When you are in your private space with your laptop, you can consult your friends (…even a pet cat, or dog ) for immediate and first impressions about the photos and profiles posted. That’s hard to do in an actual live setting.
4. They find it easier to exit the situation online than in face to face encounters. In actual meet-ups, you’d have to change your contact information, or even your place of work just to avoid people you do not like to associate with anymore. Some even go to the extent of obtaining a temporary restraining order. Online however, provided you haven’t actually met, you can end communications subtly and effectively.
5. They have actual friends, family and acquaintances who have tried various services and were happy with it. So, if it worked for them, it might work for you as well, right?
6. They want to multiply the avenues in which they are able to meet others. Who knew that there was this very attractive prospect from a nearby county, an adjacent state or even overseas? The possibilities are endless when you extend your horizons. You are able to meet people whom you would have never met otherwise.
7. They are able to define what they are looking for. It is not exactly a wish list, but it may be the closest that you may get. You are bound to get most of what you specify and that certainly does not hurt!
Online Dating is considered taboo for some but it surely has opened many possibilities and experiences for a lot more. It may be the right time, you consider this as an option.